There are many anxieties we all face on a day-to-day basis, and just as many ways to deal with those anxieties. Anxieties can weigh us down and make us freeze up instead of being confident and living life to the fullest.
Take for example something we have all probably experienced. You have a close friend, someone you have relied on, laughed with, shared secrets with, and so on. You used to hang out with this person all the time, seemingly in a very mutual, two-way friendship.
Now, I’m sure you’ve been there, reader. One day, it seems like something between you and your friend has just shifted. The air around the two of you has taken on an awkward feel, and you know something isn’t right.
It’s almost like the friend has pulled away from you, and you’re left wondering what you did wrong. You thought for sure you had given everything you could to this relationship. You remember all the times you were there for your friend, listening to her stories, helping her through rough patches, encouraging her in times of positivity.
Now, everything is different. She’s always with new friends, and when you ask her to hang out, she makes excuse after excuse. She begins only coming to you when she needs something.
You feel left out, alone, and confused, still asking yourself what the heck did I do wrong in this situation? Soon, you’re completely swallowed up by self blame.
Stop for a second. Reflection time. People often get caught up in self blame when things don’t seem to be going their way. Relationships are difficult no matter what, and you have to remember they are a two-way street. It would be pretty hard for you to tank a relationship all on your own.
It’s time to sit down and have a long talk with your friend. You need to bring all your issues to the table, and just lay it all out. There’s no use stewing over something and not doing anything about it, it will only hurt you more.
So what if you talk to her about everything, she plays it off completely as a mistake, and the deep freeze continues as if she hadn’t heard you at all? Maybe it’s time to move on.
Think about what you’re putting into the relationship and what you’re getting out. Do you feel completely drained because she’s taking and taking and not giving you the time of day? Maybe it’s time to cut ties with her. She’s not worth the worry.
You deserve the time and attention you give her to be given back to you equally. You’re worth it. Don’t tell yourself you aren’t or that there’s something wrong with you, she’s just being a bad friend.
Life is too short to have draining relationships. Don’t freeze up. If she’s as cold as the Arctic to you, find someone who actually enjoys you as a person. Don’t just let it happen, go out and take control of your life. Your happiness depends on it.